Now I’m going to really put myself out there and share a
well-kept secret … and that is that Mr Tink and I now sleep in
separate beds ……. and we love it!
Now before you raise your eyebrows I can assure you – no we are not fighting in fact since these changes our marriage has
never been better!
When I became pregnant with Little “Miss L” a year and bit ago I became a
wiggly sleeper, I was hot, I was heavy and before you think “oooh you
saucy minx” – I want to assure you I was a miserable tired mess. I
couldn’t sleep and had zero tolerance for Mr Tink’s snoring, farting
and his love of setting the air conditioner to igloo! So after many
moody mornings with a cranky wife, he said “why don’t I just sleep in
the spare room so you can spread out and have the room just as you like it
for a few nights”.
At first I was concerned, are you going off me – my pregnant mind
begin to wonder ? Is our marriage in trouble ? But I reluctantly
On night one I loved that I could spread out…. Bliss! On night two I
discovered I could get up numerous times to go to the toilet without
being careful not to wake him, heck I could even turn the light on!
And by night three I was in a world of heaven and so was Mr Tink as
the air conditioner in his room was blasting out icicles!
After bubs arrived I moved her into bed with me to establish
breastfeeding and to save me having to stumble up the hallway every 2
hours and after a month she went into her own room. Now she’s 5 months
old and sleeping well and I guess I should invite Mr Tink back into
the marital bed…… But I don’t think I’m ready to say goodbye to
the bliss! Fortunately for me neither is he – so as I type I’m lounging in the middle
of the huge king size bed and here I stay solo, me in my bedroom of all things
lovely and he in his room of snoring, farts and cold air….
Many will disagree and say it’s not right but I say don’t knock it until
you try it sister, you’re missing a whole world of plump pillows,
clean fresh sheets, no smells and the opportunity to lie spread eagle!
(Did I just say spread eagle? I’m giddy with freedom!).
Our love life ( what’s left after baby no 2 ) is great, there is a lot
of room hoping going on. I get lots of cuddles in bed in the morning
and we are getting more sleep than ever before and life is good in the
The interesting thing is that I accidentally let my secret slip in
conversations with some of my girlfriends and found out that there are a lot more happy couples
sleeping in separate rooms than I first thought. Maybe separate “sleeping” is
the future of modern marriages?