When I was a little girl I dreamt of meeting my Prince Charming, living in a beautiful home and filling it with kids, all while juggling a successful career and being fit and healthy. Now depending on what perspective I’m looking from on that day, generally I’ve reached that goal. I say perspective because it’s all in the details – on paper my dreams have come true, on paper I’ve done it, but then there is this little thing called reality (actual reality, not the real housewives reality) and you realise that there are ebbs and flows while even living your dreams.
Prince Charming will eventually drive you round the bend with his snoring, farting and sometimes even chewing. Prince Charming may at times grind your gears and you might find yourself screaming at him like Cruella de Vil on any given day, or better yet giving him the silent treatment.
Then we move onto the fairytale of filling said beautiful home (aka mortgage pit) with lots of kids while juggling a successful career – ha! What a fantasy this one is! The filling part is lots of fun, eating all the naughty foods you want while pregnant is fab, and having Prince Charming as your 24-hour slave is certainly a huge plus. Then comes the stretchmarks, leftover baby weight (thank you Krispy Kremes) cracked nipples, sleepless nights and explosive nappies – all while trying to juggle a successful career and keeping the house in a liveable state. It’s amazing how quickly your plan to have a houseful of children quickly changes to just the two and Prince Charming is booked in with Dr Snip!
Next, the successful career. Very quickly you realise three things: you can wear the same thing three times in a row and no one will know, coffee is a must-have – do not leave the house without it, and that being a juggler in the circus is a breeze when compared with juggling a career and motherhood. Even after 13 years of being ‘successful’, sometimes the most successful part of my day is that I survived it.
And what a subject to finish on, fitness. Being fit and healthy has always been an important point for me, however on some days it’s easier said than done. Dashing out of the house to get a houseful of children to school and daycare, followed by arriving at your successful career doesn’t always allow time for a healthy and fit life. In order to attain this goal you need to grab whatever half window gap you can find in a day to work your butt off and sweat up a storm. Goodbye to the luxurious long strolls and the hikes, and hello to taking what you can, when you can, while your baby is asleep – hoping she’ll stay asleep long enough for a decent workout.
So I guess on paper I have it all, in fact sometimes on Facebook I appear to have it all. Reality… It’s a funny thing. I guess it’s all about the perspective, the truth is 90% of the time Prince Charming is pretty wonderful – he is a wonderful father and despite the farts and snoring he is a great husband, who washes my car weekly, cooks, washes, mows lawns and spoils me often. The beautiful home doesn’t stay beautiful for long with little kids, the furniture is stained but it’s filled with lots of love, laughter and memories. I’d take messy and happy over clean and sterile any day. The successful career allows me to be creative and gives me the freedom to be me. It allows me the opportunity to stay focused and goal driven while staying healthy and fit, despite the struggle of making it happen. It keeps me centred, balanced and makes me a stronger, better person.
Adulting, it’s not always fun but no matter what perspective you look at it from it’s an adventure.
Mrs Tink x